Relationship expert Blessing CEO suggests that couples should exercise discretion when sharing details about their past with each other to avoid potential judgment.
Speaking on a recent episode of the Pulse Hot Takes podcast focused on relationships, she stressed the importance of maintaining some level of privacy regarding personal histories.
Blessing CEO argues against the notion of disclosing every aspect of one’s past to their partner, asserting that certain experiences are better left unsaid, especially if they do not directly impact the relationship.
“I don’t believe in telling your boyfriend everything about your past because old things have passed away and all things have become new. The only thing you should be able to tell your partner is things that affect them,” she said.
Highlighting the innate tendency for humans to pass judgment, she cautions against the potential repercussions of divulging sensitive information.
“When you start telling him things like ‘ I had sugar daddy’s when I was in school’, let me tell you how the human mind works. Naturally, we are judgmental no matter what. If someone walks in here in a skimpy skirt, even if you don’t say it your eyes would have already judged the person. That’s why I always tell women to learn to shut up, and men ‘What do you want to know?'” she said.
Furthermore, she advocates for individuals to overlook their partner’s past when embarking on a new relationship, likening it to starting with a clean slate.
“It doesn’t help to want to know everything, it kills the relationship. When you meet someone, forget their past, they’re like brand new. It’s like selling your phone, they will format and wipe it first. Our minds are like computers, If someone tells us about their past, we would subconsciously judge them, and mark the word ‘subconsciously’. Why do want to know her past, many men dig up things that they can’t bury. Men say they want the truth but can they take the truth, let the past be the past,” she said.